Also I want to say I have waffled over the years about whether or not I truly was being neglected as he built that business or if I was just lost in an abyss of unwellness.
The reason I have been more forthcoming lately about our pre-a marital issues is because he is currently building another one. I can see what was happening back then happening right in front of me again, but this time I am a different me. And we both agreed it to be wise for me not to have a big role this time.
So, I want to point out, while I feel more strongly that I was right about that when I said it here in my earlier years, it’s completely manageable by a woman who knows herself and communicates and can navigate this differently.
This is a normal marital issue when you are in a long term relationship. People need to be able to be passionate and distracted by that passion from time to time. Relationships should have elasticity. This is more proof the affair wasn’t based on this real or perceived neglect. It was caused by someone who was asleep at the wheel - and that person was me.
[This message edited by hikingout at 7:05 PM, Wednesday, March 12th]
