More update on the ongoing saga:
Yesterday, two different groups of friends invited me to join them two watch football at 2 different bars. I met the first group at 1:30p, and was planning to meet the second group at 3:30p.
When I got to the first bar, my "best friend" and his girlfriend were at the table with my group of common friends. I didn't know he was going to be there. The only open seat at the table was next to his girlfriend - he was on the opposite end of the table talking with a few other guys we know. I sat there for almost 2 hours eating wings and talking with his girlfriend about a number of things involving her kids, my kids, thanksgiving, football, etc. Nothing about my exGF and nothing about my "best friend". One of the other guys said "2020 hasn't been all that bad for us...except you getting Covid." At that point, my "best friend's" girlfriend asked "You had Covid?" I found it strange that she didn't know, especially since my "best friend" weakly reached out about it.
After about 2hrs, I left, said goodbye to everyone, and went to the other sports bar to meet my other friends. So, in the entire 2hrs I was there, sitting next to his girlfriend, not once did he come over to say hello. I thought that was odd, but not totally unexpected considering the circumstances.
A few hours later, he sent me a text saying: "Hey, is (another girl that he and I both know) still dating that same guy?" I was surprised to receive that text. Especially since he couldn't be bothered to speak to me when I was sitting at the same table as him for 2hrs. That's a text he would have sent me 3 months ago, when we were best friends, but not the text I'd expect to get now. Since I was out with my other friends when the text came through, I just ignored it and figured I would reply today.
This morning, he sent me another text stating: "LOL, was just curious...her name came up last night."
So, I responded "Ask her." (which is what he should have told my exGF when she was bothering him about me talking to her brother-in-law).
He then responded "Whatever dude. Nice attitude. Your true colors keep shining!"
I replied "No (best friend). Yours are."
He replied "LMFAO. Read your reply and tell me who's being the asshole. I'm reacting to your sarcastic reply. It's all good man. Was a simple question that didn't need a sarcastic reply, but I get it.. The ironic part is that I was actually going to reach out to you today to try to clear the air...after seeing you yesterday. But to get a reply like I got from you this morning. Your words make your stance loud and clear..."
What the F??? So, I've extended multiple olive branches to him over the past 3 months, and he's dismissed every one. He's berated me and texted aggressive responses like what he wrote above, and somehow I'm the a-hole??? I don't think for one minute that he was planning to reach out to me today to try to clear the air. If he was, he would have done it. I think he went back and reread our text exchange and realized that HE was the one being the a-hole.
But, since he threw that out there, I figured I'd paint him into a corner. So I responded "My response was not intended to be sarcastic. And I would look forward to speaking with you to clear the air."
I really didn't intend my response to be sarcastic. It was none of his business, and it wasn't my business to share if the girl was still dating the same guy. If he wanted to know, he could have asked her. They're "friends" too, although she thinks he's an a-hole.
He said he would reach out to me this afternoon. Want to put money on him suddenly "getting too busy" and not having a chance to reach out?
I can't imagine what he could possibly say at this point to make me want to continue to be his friend? But, if he does reach out, I'll listen to what he has to say. I'm kind of curious.