Topic is Sleeping.
sundance (original poster member #72129) posted at 3:35 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
I absolutely LOVE this site!
It gives me so much to be thankful for-- minds that think like mine; minds that do not think like mine (and cause me to think beyond my own thoughts); a space for waywards that is semi-protected (in as much as a stop sign is used or not used); the potential for growth in myself (my core obsession at this point in my journey).
I could go on and on...
For me personally, it is rewarding to know that I have matured to a point where I can think beyond "group-think." That I have matured beyond thinking that there is only one absolute or "right" way to view a circumstance or to determine an outcome.
My skies are multi-faceted, and the colors in my sky are unlimited.
I feel free. It is so invogorating!
Rusty: You scared?Linus: You suicidal?Rusty: Only in the morning.
ff4152 ( member #55404) posted at 3:49 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
I definitely have a love hate relationship with SI.
I too feel that there isn’t one size fits all path out of infidelity or any other situation for that matter. Prior to my arrival, I was a very black and white thinking type of guy. Now I can see the gray areas and actually consider that there are alternatives other than my own.
It’s been extraordinarily painful for me the last 4 years. I’ve had to face my demons and acknowledge that I’m not the person I told myself I was. I was the guy who would lie and cheat. I always used to look down my nose at cheaters. Now I am one,
I am also very thankful for the few very special friends that I’ve made. People who have shown me incredible kindness despite being a WS. I’m forever grateful for their wisdom, kindness and guidance these past 4 years.
sundance (original poster member #72129) posted at 3:03 AM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020
Love-hate relationship: I get that. Maybe I'm not supposed to love it so soon?
Glad to read you find SI supportive. Thank you!
Rusty: You scared?Linus: You suicidal?Rusty: Only in the morning.
foreverlabeled ( member #52070) posted at 2:21 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020
I honestly credit this site for changing my life, and saving myself from myself. When I landed here almost 5 years ago, I did not expect the outcome that came to be.
I didn't know what I was getting myself into, and while for the most part it has been an incredibly painful experience it has also been very rewarding.
I am the best version of me and it simply wouldn't have happened without SI. This place has my undying gratitude.
I also love the variety of perspectives. It helps you see things that maybe you were blind to before, or something is said in a way that just clicks in your head, and you get that ah ha moment. And I appreciate that.
sundance (original poster member #72129) posted at 11:53 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020
I also love the variety of perspectives. It helps you see things that maybe you were blind to before
Exactly! Thank you for weighing in.
Rusty: You scared?Linus: You suicidal?Rusty: Only in the morning.
15yrsinthemaking ( member #75828) posted at 5:17 AM on Sunday, December 27th, 2020
I'm very grateful for this site. I'm reading daily. Now I need to utilize it for it's full potential. Thank you for all the wise words that have been shared here.
Topic is Sleeping.