Hi all,
It’s been awhile since I posted here... it’s been about 15 months since my XWH moved out, about 9 months since the divorce was final. While I appreciated the support I got here and it helped me through some of the most difficult moments of my life, I got to a point where I needed to get off my computer and start growing my life through real experiences and new friendships. I have spent the last year really exploring myself and working to develop a life that makes me happy with or without a partner. And I have been thriving! Hot air balloon rides, trips with my mom, trips with girlfriends, exploring new career opportunities... just a few of the things that have been going on :)
In April, during quarantine, I decided to go on a dating site just to see what people were doing. I was feeling a bit lonely after three months alone in my home, and I was curious what was out there. I talked to a few people, but one stood out. This man seemed genuine, had a lot in common with me, and appeared to be looking for the same things in life and relationships. So I decided to take a chance and allow a few socially distant dates. Well, fast forward about 5 months, and I think I may have found a REALLY good one! He is kind, empathetic, caring, fun, a great dad, a healthy communicator. He comes up with creative and spectacular date ideas, in a time where dating is challenging with a pandemic. We’ve gone to drive in movies, spent a lot of time on the lake, refurbished vintage bikes together, and gone camping on a remote beach. He has met my family, and I have met his. I’ve even met his children, which was an honor (he has been divorced for two years and has never introduced his kids to a dating partner).
So... long story long... I am in love! And I’m happy! I’m still a little cautious and always know that if something changes, I am really happy being on my own, but I am hopeful for the future with this man.
I was just thinking about this place today, and how the people here helped me so much when I was in such a dark place... and I thought maybe an update was in order. I’m thankful for the part this group played in my healing journey. Much love! Xoxo